Yesterday I was so tired, I some how time travelled back to day 54. It was actually day 64, those 10 days make all the difference.
Today BB and I have met another lovely mum and baby for a socially distanced park picnic.
At first I was a little nervous due to the restrictions, however, we set up our picnic blankets 2 metres apart and chatted easily whilst the babies played with their toys. I had a lovely time and was so happy when she texted asking to do it again (weather permitting) in 2 weeks time. I’m hoping I’m starting to crack the mum friendship thing.
In other news, there’s a guy I sort of struck up an acquaintance with about 4 years ago. I’d always see him out walking his dog when running and some how over head nods, we started stopping and having a quick catch up, whilst I stroked his gorgeous dog. About 2 years ago we started following each other on instagram and apart from a month ago when I bumped into him over the fields I hadn’t really seen him. I presumed it was because I was running less, or exercising at different times. But to be honest I hadn’t really given it any thought.
Yesterday he posted on instagram to say he was 8 months sober. He detailed his journey to this point, a spiralled down fall and hospital stay, the previous attempts to quit and his secret sober recovery account. I had no idea he was struggling with addiction, he always seemed so upbeat and well… sober when walking the dog. 8 months is the longest he’d ever done.
I emailed him to say congratulations, but everything I wrote to him seems so inadequate.
It got me thinking how lucky I am. My downfall wasn’t as bad and I was fortunate to catch it just as the wine witch was scratching the surface. He emailed back thanking me for reaching out. He looks amazing now, fresh faced, twinkly eyes, glowing skin so I shared the compliment and told him I’d recently gone sober too.
Later on I shared the news with my hubster (who unfortunately gets to hear every little part of my day). He turned to me and said, that’s what I was trying to tell you on Sunday. You seem more alive, you have your sparkle back.
So I’m thinking, sober sparkle is definitely a thing. Eyes that twinkle in a face that’s alive.
Love
JS x
This is so lovely and serendipitous! I think there are many people out there who struggle with similar issues as us. And you’d never know. I am hoping to become more open about it the longer I am sober. Back to day 2 today, hahhaa but I am very optimistic.
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It’s so true that quote that everyones fighting a battle or something like that. Yay go day 2! You’ve got this
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Love this and YESSSSS to the sparkle!! It’s the whole reason behind my screen name here!
https://brenebrown.com/blog/2019/05/31/what-being-sober-has-meant-to-me/
Have you read this post by Brene Brown? It’s what inspired the thought of reclaiming my sparkle in the first place.
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Brene brown is the most insightful writer out there.the gifts of imperfection changed my life. It is her BEST BOOK.
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Ooh thanks both I’ll check her out. Currently struggling through the happiness project but not enjoying it
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Disclaimer: I actually struggled with two of Brene’s books that I read. I’m a linear thinker and I found it tough to sort of sift through the way she rights to follow the main thread. But in small doses she provides a LOT of insight and food for thought for me! In case you too are one of the few who doesn’t immediately “get” her writing! 😀
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“writes” not “rights”. Early morning brain… 😉
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Haha so glad it isnt just me that does that 🥰. I’m also glad you said you struggled with the book, I cant get on with the happiness project at all. Its helping me sleep for sure.
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I did not like the happiness project. I am very particular about books now.
Anything that will make me or my life better goes in the trash.
My like is lovely. I just need to take a deep breath and relax. Then I can feel it.
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I have listened to three of her podcasts in the past couple of days … they are fascinating. I was going to buy that book … I am now utterly convinced.
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Oh gosh, I’ll definitely look tomorrow then in BBs long nap time
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Search Brené Brown podcast and you can get it on Spotify or other podcast apps 😊
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Awesome.
The sparkle is great!
Don’t underestimate that wine witch. She tries to drag us all down.
I have often been thankful I didn’t have a very low bottom. I don’t think I could have handled it.
Escape is precious.
Look at that baby head ❤️❤️😊
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She’s so snidey that wine witch, creeping in whilst we are unawares.
And thanks she’s very slowly getting very fluffy hair 🥰🥰 hope you’re ok?♡♡
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Brilliant that you are making friends and connecting and wow that you have also connected with the man who is 8 mths sober. I believe that some things happen for a reason or maybe we are just more open to them at certain times in our lives. Kindness breeds kindness too. Xxx
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I know, it’s so weird how things happen. Yes I believe that about kindness too. Xxx
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Great post. I really enjoyed reading it. To sober sparkle! xoxo
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What a wonderful post! Yes, my husband gets to hear everything, too! 😂😂😂
He thinks I am sparkly more, too!
xo
Wendy
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Our poor husbands 😂
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