Day 67 – White lies

I normally update later in the day, but I was so excited I’ve come on early.

Yesterday we went for our anniversary meal and….. they had 2 glasses of chilled prosecco on our table waiting for us. I didn’t even think twice, I wasn’t even tempted, I sent them back.

I wasnt confident enough to say I was alcohol free, recovering from dependency. So I said I was in the early stages of pregnancy and enjoyed the fuss everyone made getting us mocktails to celebrate our anniversary and fib. I didn’t feel bad telling a white lie, but I do wonder when I’ll feel confident telling everyone.

How did you handle being loud and proud, owning your sobriety? Or are you like me and still not entirely comfortable telling people?

Love

JS x

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36 years old, wife, stay at home mum, outdoors lover, wild swimmer, starting the journey to an AF life

17 thoughts on “Day 67 – White lies

  1. You have to do what you are comfortable with. I have been 60 days sober and I am more confident in telling people that I have a problem. I do. Nothing to be ashamed of we all have our problems. However I am not dancing on the rooftops yelling it out I am talking about close co-workers or people that know me acquaintances. Again though it is what when and who you are comfortable with. Your life. Your choices. And no one needs to know why until you are ready. (Sorry only said that six different but same way) 🙂 Have an awesome day.

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  2. I think you did great! I also think it’s cute you enjoyed your “early stages of pregnancy” and them making a fuss over mocktails dinner date night! Sounds like a fun new night out to tell! You were strong! 💪🏻
    I don’t really say I don’t drink or I’m sober. I just say something like “Can I please have a virgin strawberry daiquiri?” ( or Shirley Temple! ) 😁 I usually have it pre-planned. Lol

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  3. Awesome!
    I don’t think twice anymore. I just don’t drink.
    I also don’t eat gluten as I am celiac.

    Over the years I have become open about my sobriety, depression and then my divorce. That’s just me and I am called inside to do that.

    Great job taking care of you. It looks delicious!

    Happy anniversary.

    Anne

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    1. I try and avoid dairy as it doesnt agree with me but love it so much. Thanks for the anniversary wishes, it’s on Monday. Planning a treasure hunt on Sunday for him with the kids involved. Xx

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  4. You say what you feel comfortable with and it will develop and change in time. I have been open from day one. I don’t drink, I’ve given up because it made me feel crap. For a while I had everyone set me as their ‘how bad am It barometer … I’ve said that to you before I think. But that dies down eventually. People don’t care now. If someone gives me a drink I politely refuse and tell them I no longer drink alcohol. I’m actually really really proud of it. 🤗🤗

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  5. I did really enjoy writing “non-drinker” on the dermatologist intake forms today when it asked about my alcohol intake. I’m not shouting it from the rooftops, either but I’d have to say, I’m pretty proud about my non drinking lifestyle. 🙂 Good for you for sending the Prosecco away! 🙂 🙂

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  6. I love this question because I ‘ve been thinking about it too. I’m on day 21 today and even though I feel like this is The Time (like The Last Attempt To Quit Because I Know In My Bones That It’s Finally Sticking), I’m not confident enough yet to lay it out there. I haven’t even told anyone yet besides one close friend and my husband! I think once I have a few solid months under my belt and some trigger situations (like holidays) sober then I’ll start really feeling in my bones that I’ve got this. Until then, I’m okay with playing it cool.

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  7. When I fnally was able to quit, I was lucky, no one cared. Sometimes I just joked, and said I drank enough to last 10 years, or just said, I was drinking too much, and it was causing too much pain.
    But my case was different, as I didn’t really have any big drinking buddies. I told my family and friends I had to quit. Only 2 of them knew I had a problem.
    xo
    Wendy

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